When I had the impulse to write this post last week, I had no idea what I was in for. I had listened to a super insightful discussion from an Abraham seminar, which led me to all sorts of ideas about how to share the gist of it.
The question, which is everyone’s question really, was how do I get from where I’m not wanting to be to where I want to be? The brilliant answer was naturally, “You can’t.” We’ve talked about this fact a fair amount in other posts. You simply can’t Allow in your desires when you are standing there, sitting there, feeling stuck and thinking about how much you don’t want to be where you are.
The only way, the absolute only way, is to figure out how to see that where you are is a little less of what you don’t want, to appreciate some aspects of where you are just a little bit more, to make them a closer match to what you want.
So our job, every day, when we look at our present circumstances, whatever they may be, is to find something to appreciate about them. I have a new client that I adore who said she couldn’t do that as long as her primary desire wasn’t satisfied. She could not find a better feeling thought. Without her desire, she believed, everything sucks and the Universe has failed me. I don’t think she’s the only one who has ever felt that way.
Yet, no matter how much of a virtual sh__storm you seem to be in the midst of, there are things in your life that are worthy of appreciation. You have choices every day about how to think about those things. And, those choices are what creates the momentum, positive or negative, fast or slow, which determines whether you will remain stuck or begin to Allow in the things you want in your life.
Esther Hicks, as herself and not Abraham, said she uses the analogy of staying in your lane when you’re driving. If you begin to drift and hear the rumble strip you try to do something, right? You don’t wait until you’re in the grass or off the road or somewhere even worse.
It’s a perfect analogy. And the beauty of it is that if you practice doing it every day, actually commit to the fact that your alignment, your vibration, is the only thing that matters, you are getting out ahead of things in a way that will keep you in your lane when things are difficult. And, when you know that you can feel good without having that “thing” that you want, you will have it in your vibrational reality. And, if you can stay in your lane you will get the ideas, the inspirations, make the connections, be in the right place at the right time, and you will find yourself in the same room as your desire. And, not only will it feel great to manifest your desire but you will be able to say to yourself, “I did that. I did that.”
Once, you’ve been able to do that and feel that sense of empowerment and that the Universe really is working for you, you really are on that path to where you can be or do or have anything you want.
I mentioned that when I had the inspiration to share these ideas last week, perhaps Thursday, I had no idea what was in store for me. I found out on Friday that my dad had had a stroke. Honestly, I’m not going to pretend that seeing my dad in pain, confused, scared, and sometimes not knowing me or where this is going, did not create some really strong feelings of sadness, worry and fear. I’ve experienced the “dog-licking pain” from the song “Wild Horses.” Ugh, it’s just other worldly.
The way that I’ve surprised myself, and believe me I’m surprised and proud of this, is that I’ve had those moments of wanting to just bawl my eyes out and just say, “No, no, no, this is not happening,” but I have also been able to get back into my lane. Despite spending many days in the ICU, on the edge, I have also been able to coach clients and get brilliant insights (if I must say so myself). I’ve been on the phone with my kids, who are checking in constantly, and found myself laughing so hard about something else that happened that I was literally crying. I think that’s what’s referred to as laughing your ass off. Yep.
I am still scared, worried and really sad when I think a lot about how this might play out. I’m leaving for the hospital soon. Yet, I can also find things to appreciate even about this. It has been a huge family bonding moment. I’m talking to my kids, my brothers, my dad’s wife, my mom, my sisters-in law, my friends, and some clients who love me, and I realize how much love I really have in my life, how lucky I am. I know my dad would not want me to be going off the road here and I’m not. I’m making the correction as often as I can.
So, I thought it was worth saying that practicing staying in your lane by finding things to appreciate about where you are now is one of the most important things you can do to find your full power, to show yourself that you are in charge of your experience. It’s so worth the effort.
Big love to everyone. I appreciate all of you who read my posts and let me know that they’ve helped you in some way. That’s not a small thing. There is always something to appreciate.
If you’d like to send prayers, that would give me even more to appreciate. Thanks for that.