We’ve all had the experience of wanting something to happen in a particular way and it either doesn’t happen or doesn’t happen in the way we intended.  Maybe it doesn’t even feel close to what we intended.



It’s a pattern we’ve all experienced.  We’re not talking disasters here, but just where things just didn’t go according to plan.  And, we may even doubt that the plan is ever going to materialize.

We know how the Law of Attraction works.  Our state of mind, the visions in our head and the actions we take, create our reality.  Although, this knowledge can operate against us when it leads us to dwell on where we went wrong when things seem to go differently than we intended.

Let’s not let that knowledge of how we create our own reality be dangerous when we think we’ve miscreated, causing us to lower our vibration and diminish our power!

How about considering an entirely different possibility and approach when our circumstances are a bit different than we intended and planned?

We can jump right past the part where we question ourselves and wonder what we are doing wrong.  We can step right into the mindset of considering how the situation actually serves us better than we intended.

This approach isn’t about being in denial or deluding ourselves into the belief that this situation actually might be better than we had originally imagined.  There’s a very good reason for this solid approach.

The Universe, Infinite Intelligence, the same energy that creates worlds and every amazing aspect of Nature, has a hella lot more information about what we really want than we do.  The Universe has always been responding to our requests, every minor detail.  The Universe has our entire history and the myriad circumstances that we have created throughout our lifetimes at its disposal.




If you’ve had this experience of things turning out differently than you intended often enough, you have undoubtedly also found yourself often getting more out of the unwanted or unexpected circumstances than you would have had if things had gone according to plan.

If you think this hasn’t happened to you, STOP NOW.  REALLY, PLEASE, STOP.  Take a moment and consider some of the things that were disappointing at first, and then they turned out better, much better than they would have been if they had happened as you intended.

Did you ever not get “the guy” or “the girl” and then found that you ended up in a relationship that was sooo much better than that would have been?

Did you ever not get “the guy” or the “girl” and learned that you avoided a dumpster fire of huge proportions?

Did you lose the job unexpectedly and then get the job that you had dreamed about, which is soooo much better?

Did you miss getting the apartment you were trying for only to find that your dream apartment showed up and was soooo much better?

Did the deal fall through and actually cause you to find a deal that was soooo much better?

This is a just a short list.  All of these things have happened for me, for clients, for friends.  This stuff happens ALL THE TIME.



I can personally name dozens and dozens of things that were initially, ugh, WTH, nooooo, that turned out to have a silver lining, a much better outcome than I had envisioned.  The misstep, as I initially perceived it, allowed for the better outcome.  And, things happened more easily and more quickly than I had expected with my original plan.  Things flowed in a way they would not have flowed without the change of direction.

The more quickly you can move into the expanded view of “How does this serve me?,” the more quickly you move into that zone where the Universe has co-created for you something that you could not have imagined from your less aerial perspective.

This approach has serious benefits:

Looking for the advantage in the inconvenience feels so much better than wallowing in “Where did I go wrong?”;

You are now accessing energy that is much more powerful than what you were able to conjure up before lining up with the Universe; and

The more often you engage this approach, the Universe will feel your appreciation for its assistance and supply you with more and more surprising outcomes that exceed what you had imagined.

This approach is a win-win, as in win-win-win and win again.  Thinking “Where did I go wrong,” can begin to feel well, just ridiculous.

Right now, consider something in your life that is happening in a way that appears to be less than what you wanted and intended.  Things might be happening slowly, there may be roadblocks, unexpected glitches.  It might feel, on the surface, that there is no momentum toward what you intended.

Open yourself up to the possibility that you’re getting some help from the Universe in creating something that’s a bit more fitting for you, that’s maybe even awesome!



Be open to surprises and things that are better than imagined.  That’s where the magic happens.

If you found this valuable, let me know.  I’m also available for one-on-one support.  You can reach me at susan@howtoallow.net or at http://www.howtoallow.net/coaching

By the way, my website has been under renovation recently and my apologies to those who contacted me about not being able to find a certain post or subscribe to the newsletter.  I’m sure these delays and minor glitches in upgrading my website are actually something that is going to turn out better than I originally imagined!

Thank you to Daniel Scranton for his amazing otherworldly messages that reinforced my confidence in things often working out just this way. www.danielscranton.com

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