When we have aspects of our current reality that we wish would change, improve, even disappear, we have an option that will allow that change to occur sooner rather than later. Yet, it requires that we give up much of our intense focus upon “what is.” Our vibration right now, in this second, is what is creating our future. We know the change that we want, we’ve put it out to the Universe and the Universe has responded by lining up the details for us. It’s just waiting for our cooperation. And, the only way to cooperate is to change where we are putting our attention NOW. 
It can feel difficult to remove our focus from a reality that isn’t very satisfying. We’ve been trained to take action to fix what isn’t working. Ignoring the things that aren’t working feels counter-intuitive, lazy, and like nothing could possibly improve.
Although, in fact, our continued focus upon what isn’t so great in our reality is the primary reason that we remain stuck in place. Some detachment from those things that are not optimal in our lives is our best strategy. And, it doesn’t have to be as difficult as we often imagine it to be.
Focusing upon the things that are working is the path to allowing the bigger changes that we want to flow into our lives. So how do we do that when what we don’t want is staring us in the face?
- We need to redirect our focus away from the “big” change that we want in our lives. The Universe already knows what we want. Generally, our vibration is lined up with the lack of what we want when we try hard to focus upon making change happen. We may think we are focusing purely on our desire but more often we are reminding ourselves that we don’t have it. It is also helpful not to look at the change we want as “big.” That just sets us up for putting out a vibration that expects it to be hard, and then it is.
- We need to make a decision that our vibration is more important than anything else as it is creating our entire reality. It’s the most important thing in our lives that we can manage for the benefit of ourselves and everyone we care about. It’s our superpower. Why wouldn’t we use our superpower to create the life that we want?
- We need to take ownership of our vibration. We need to acknowledge that we are capable of managing where we focus our attention. It’s not an impossible task. Our thoughts are not us. We are in charge. Who says we need to keep monitoring, measuring, assessing how far we are from where we want to be? Who says that worrying about possible undesired outcomes is going to help to protect us from undesirable outcomes? It’s not.
- We need to acknowledge what is working, what brings us happiness, and focus upon that while we remind ourselves that our improved circumstances are in the process of coming in.
- We need to stop ourselves when we notice that we are dwelling on the things that need improvement and remind ourselves that the change we want is already done. It’s in our vibrational escrow.
- As we go about our day, we can ask ourselves “How could this be a bit better?” or “How could this be even better?” Then we can take inspired action to improve our experience in the moment. So, instead of focusing on what is not working, we are looking for ways to improve our present moment experience.
For example, while writing this post, I’ve asked those exact questions about the way I’m experiencing my present moments. That has resulted in taking a break to walk outside with my cat and dog, appreciating the warmer day, lighting a candle on my desk that my daughter gave me, responding to a client email to support her in feeling better (which makes me feel better), stopping to watch the bluebird outside my window, making a great cup of coffee and using the mug that one of my sons gave me. Paying attention to these small details reflects a decision to make the best of the present moment, where all of my power lies.
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By making this present moment my focus, I haven’t abandoned my “big” goals (remember not to call them big). I’ve done the only thing that I can do now, which is to put myself into the receptive mode so that the Universe can deliver all of the things that I want, including the big things.
Removing our focus from what isn’t working, paying attention to the details of our day, doing what feels good, and looking for more things to appreciate is the way we change our reality to a reality that feels as if we are moving in the right direction.
When we begin that movement in the direction of our desires we can begin to see and feel that lots of things actually are working out for us.
To be able to say and believe that “Things are working out for me,” creates that magical feeling that puts us right into our vortex with our desires. And, then their manifestation is inevitable.
I have a great process for shifting your focus and letting go of thoughts that might feel impossible to release. One of my clients uses my process as her screensaver! If you could use that kind of support to change your inner game, you can reach me at susan@howtoallow.net or www.howtoallow.net
Dear Susan,
I love and appreciate your articles. I would like to offer a different way of expressing. Let us change “We need to make a decision” to “Simply make a decision.” Let us rephrase “We need to acknowledge” to “Merely acknowledge.” In my creation my Source entrusted me with all that is created. I already have it. His gift is eternal. Only my opposing thoughts blind me, block my awareness of the presence of what I already have, obscure my recognition that I need nothing, lack nothing, cannot be separated from all that is. Only my vain imagining makes illusions before reality, dream images where the Truth still is, graven images which seem to dissociate me from reality. Reality is still where it has always been, but with my false ideas, my conflicting ideas, I hide reality from myself in order to imagine that I separated from the truth of what I am and where I am. Forgive the blinding ideas that attack my sanity and block my awareness of already having and being as Source created me. Then pivot my focus of attention to reality, truth, creation, the gift Source gave to me in my creation. Change but my mind — from dreaming of need and lack — to a better way of thinking and appreciating the truth that Source denies me nothing. Only I can deny myself anything, and only by thinking I do not have, I need, I lack, I am separated from, for thoughts are images I make, formless ideas are what I translate into form, thoughts become things, and with my false ideas of “what is,” I blind and deny myself the reality that is forever mine by making dream images, vain imaginings, graven images instead of allowing reality to be reality, truth to be true. Let go of false ideas about what I am, where I am, Whose I am, and just beyond my self-imposed delusion of separation is the miracle, the vision of the gift of every aspect of the creation of Source. It is merely setting aside the false idea that makes the false image. This mental act, this free will decision, allows me to perceive that which is just beyond the “need” I imagined before it. Relinquish the false idea of need, and what is then left to take it’s place is all that IS. Judge not according to appearances of the “what is” that seems to be a cause of need, but judge righteous judgment, that with my thoughts I make my world, project my ideas in perceivable form, picture images, dream of need and lack. I am the cause of the effect I seem to see. It is not seeing, but image making, dreaming, projecting false images, making vain imaginings of what was never created. Let me instead allow myself to perceive rightly, truly, what is real, what is already and forever present, still as Source created it for Himself. Let me remember that every aspect of reality is the effect caused by Source, and ask myself if what I seem to see is what Source would create, love, and share with me. Source experiences every aspect of creation, so would Source create for Himself a “need,” a lack, a separation from all that is. Who changed his mind, Source, or me? Therefore, who has been entrusted with free will to forgive the false idea, change mind, refocus attention, and allow all that is to be as it was lovingly created and given to me as a gift from Source? To need is to oppose allowing. To allow is to recognize need is impossible, was never created, can have no reality, is an illusion representing a false idea, is only ever a self-deception that I cause with my choice of false ideas. The world I “see” is merely the representation of what I think, and changing my mind to a better way of thinking is the way of saving myself from the “need” or any dream image of what I do not want. Forgive the mad idea of what I do not want, pivot my focus of attention to what I do desire, and by my own free will election I am free. Change but my mind, and all the world must change accordingly, because the cause of the world, my state of mind, has changed. Change cause, and effect must change. Allow, making no false images before what is really present, projecting no opposing dream images, and I am free of the dissociation I imagined in vain, my childish game of imagining I am separated from the gift that Source gave me. What I really have and am is simply allowed, accepted, recognized, realized, and merely by letting go of my false idea of being separated from my natural inheritance, what Source gave me in my creation.
In love and respect,
Frank
FJEllis@aol.com
Thank you for your lovely and wise words. I use “need” loosely to convey a lively energy and excitement around changing our inner state to one of allowing but agree that your words are free of resistance.
Thanks Susan! Very thought provoking about a change I gave in mind. Also love the bird detail, as well as those other tangibles 🙂
I’m glad that this info was thought-provoking and timely! Love that. Will be thinking of you.